I can and will be confident

Confidence  is always the key to any successful person or endeavour.  If you believe in your success and you believe in yourself then half the work is already done. People are drawn to confident persons no matter how you look or who you are. Be confident, be strong and you are already halfway to achieving your goals. 

SPEAK UP

There are persons in this world that I admire a great deal and those are persons who can stand up and be heard. Those people who can voice any idea that they may have with authority and such confidence that you have no choice but to take notice of them and what they are saying. I always admire their strength and their ability to speak and sometimes you wonder why those persons seem to be able to do so much and speak with such confidence when sometimes you can hardly find your voice. It is actually quite simple. They do one thing, they STAND UP AND SPEAK.

You cannot be heard if you are silent, you cannot be heard if you have no voice. If you always remain quiet then you will go unnoticed and your opinion will not be heard. Often times what we fear is being rejected and ridiculed for what we say and our opinions and it is that fear which holds us back from truly letting our voice be heard. The thought of having somebody disagree with us, make fun of us of just plain and simply reject us entirely often leaves us so frozen that at we refuse to even try. But to remain frozen is to remain silent and to remain silent is to not have a voice.

The outspoken persons whom we see are no better than what we could be if we would only try. If you don’t like something SPEAK UP. If you want something SPEAK UP. If you are in a bad situation SPEAK YOURSELF OUT IT. There is power in the tongue it for us to us it, all we have to do is SPEAK UP. 

Just a thought

“Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.”

― Albert Einstein

BLESSED IN A DIFFERENT WAY

BOXED IN

To know who you are can sometimes be a difficult task, as often times we are plagued by images of who or what we should be, or of a particular box that we should fit into. There are times that these boxes confuse us, because we want so much to step outside the box and to be something or someone different, to switch into a pattern that is not as predictable as everyone thinks that we are.

It is always important to be true to who we are, and as we are about to celebrate International Women’s day in a few hours, I wanted to say to all my readers especially my female readers, that it is ok to surprise persons, it is ok to step outside of the box that people have put you in. In fact, it is not simply ok, but most times it will make you happy that you chose a path based on your happiness and what you find important in life. 

There are times that under the guise of normality our self-expression becomes limited because we are expected to act in a certain way, to do certain jobs and to be the “normal” individuals that everyone expects us to be.  An expectation is simply that, it is what is expected; it is not who we are or what we have to be. We can shape our own future as women, as leaders, as persons. We must treat our lives as valuable assets which we only get one chance at and we should aim to make the best of it at all times.

So I encourage you, to find what you are good at, find activities that you enjoy, be around people who you love, enjoy the activities that you do and if there is in fact something that you do not like, you have the power to change and to be exactly who you expected yourself to be and live up to your own expectations.

APPRECIATE YOURSELF

Today, I have embarked on a decision that I know will ultimately change my life in how I think about myself and how I see myself, because I saw where there are certain changes that I needed to make in my life and just generally in how I lived my life. I decided that it was time for me to just appreciate me. It was time for me to love myself and to do things that made me feel good.

Sometimes, we spend so much time focusing on the needs of others, on pleasing others and on trying to make others happy that in the process, we completely forget that if we are not happy with who we are and what we are doing, then in essence you are living your entire lives to please somebody else. If you continue to do this just think, who will be there to take care of you and appreciate you.

Now to all my readers, I am not saying that you should completely ignore the needs of others, or never do anything to make somebody else happy. Just ensure that whatever you are doing with your life and with yourself, it is something that you actually want to do and not something that you are doing to please somebody else whether it is your parent, partner or friend. 

Take some time out, to do something that you want to do because its full time that we learn to just appreciate ourselves for who we are and not who somebody wants us to be.

Enjoy the moment

How many times have we rushed off to work, or school or an important meeting that we just couldn’t miss. Many of us lead busy lives and we are always on the go and always trying to figure out what the next best thing is, because as typical human beings we want the best for ourselves and we want to progress in life. Therefore, we tend to always be on the move for the next best thing, or working towards the promotion, or the house, or that car or anything that we desire in life.

In fact that is a good thing, and it speaks our desire to want good things for ourselves. However, how many of us just stop one day to actually enjoy the things which we work so hard for. To enjoy the perks of the job you worked so hard for, or to play with our children which we love so much, or take a leisurely drive in that brand new car. We are always in such a hurry to achieve the next thing that we almost never have time to slow down and take a breath. I encourage you to do that and you will be surprised that you will be pleasantly surprised at how much you have actually done.